March 16, 2009
Sweeping child-custody changes proposed
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CHARLESTON, W.Va. - If a man works long hours to support a family, should a judge grant him less time with his children after a divorce?

State Senate Judiciary Chairman Jeff Kessler says West Virginia laws do just that - and he's proposed sweeping changes to how courts decide child custody.

But an alliance called the Coalition for Safe Families supports current laws, which it says are best for the safety and stability of children.

Under state law, divorced parents first try to work out a parenting plan. If they can't, a mediator steps in. When that doesn't help, a family court judge intervenes.

Kessler's bill (SB438), co-sponsored by Harrison County Democrat Sen. Joseph Minard, would maximize each parent's time with the children when the proceedings hit that stage, Kessler said.

"The current system is set up to where there's winners and losers," creating more animosity in an already bad situation, said Kessler, D-Marshall.

The problem, Kessler contends, is that men typically work longer hours than women. So when a judge is looking at past patterns, fathers are at a disadvantage.

His proposal would make judges try to give each parent equal time with the kids. Judges would disregard how much time each parent spent with the children during the marriage. Instead, they would consider the parents' "ability and willingness" to do so after the divorce.

"This would give some credit for the time where the dad did work overtime to keep the family intact," Kessler said.

But Sam Hickman, director of the state chapter of the National Association of Social Workers, said there are good reasons why judges look at who spent the most time with the kids.

Judges consider that among many other factors, Hickman said: The child's age, personality, and attachment to each parent.

"The law already allows for the prospect of 50/50 shared parenting if that can be worked out, and if it's in the best interest of the child," Hickman said.

"It might be more important, psychologically, for the child to be placed with the primary nurturer rather than the primary breadwinner. ... There isn't a default, one-size-fits-all kind of approach."

Kessler's and Minard's bill includes many ideas supported by the group Men and Women Against Discrimination, which lobbies for fathers' rights.

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Posted By: curiousme (12:56am 03-19-2009)
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I think the 50/50 is detrimental to the child and not in their best interests. Kids need routine and when they go from one house to another then it confuses them, they need a place they call "home". This arrangement is not good for the child.

Posted By: hoops (11:48pm 03-18-2009)
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goes both ways wveasyrider. my ex bro. in law decided he didnt want to be married, had an affair when married, and then walked away. with a 50/50 bill he could have the kids even when he was at work, he works 24 hour shifts. my sister makes her schedule around the kids school works and does with out to make sure she is there. i think this bill will make it impossible to do what is best for the kids. i don't think our courts do that now, and maybe the family court judges need to take some more time to figure out what is best for the kids on an individual basis. oh, let me give you one more example of how the courts r failing. i know of a 16 year old child that was told they would have to visit their father or go to juv. det. the father became astranged to the kid when he found out they are dating someone he didnt like. the dating ended in 2 weeks but the damage was done. the dad berated the kid and kids mom. he caused a lot of damage. making the kid go or go to jail, not ok.

Posted By: wveasyrider (12:29am 03-18-2009)
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i also think they need to take alot of things in consideration when it come to custody. Like who is responsible for the divorice. Women know that the are almost esured costody, so if the are just tired of being married or fall out of love or they just find someone else they know that they can get a divorce, get custody of the kids and get payed for it. Men do not have that option.

Posted By: OMG (11:47am 03-18-2009)
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I am a male that has custody of my two sons. i only got custody because my ex got in trouble with the law for not sending them to school and then she kicked them out of the house at 10 and 11 years old. Until then the courts would not even think about givving me ( a man ) custody. As far as child support goes she don't pay but thats ok because I do not want any help from her. I would rather take care of them on my own. i think thats the responsibilty I took when I took custody. I think its wrong to take the children away from a parent and then make that parent pay for the right to see them every other weekend. Its like kicking you when your down.

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